Deal With Your Bad Day The Positive Aging Way
By Simone
By Simone
By Simone
“Remember, don’t give up because you had a bad day. Forgive what’s happened, and tomorrow will be a fresh start.”
About a decade ago, I heard one of the most freeing phrases. I can't remember what I was doing or who I was with, and I'm positive I will get the actual wording wrong.
But essentially, the phrase broke down to this: Humans are made to be imperfect, so stop trying to be perfect.
There are other variations of this I have wrestled with throughout the years. "Our imperfections are what makes us colorful." "Treat yourself as you would treat a friend."
Perhaps it is because I place unreasonably high expectations on myself that I would never put on another.
“Remember, don’t give up because you had a bad day. Forgive what’s happened, and tomorrow will be a fresh start.”
About a decade ago, I heard one of the most freeing phrases. I can't remember what I was doing or who I was with, and I'm positive I will get the actual wording wrong.
But essentially, the phrase broke down to this: Humans are made to be imperfect, so stop trying to be perfect.
There are other variations of this I have wrestled with throughout the years. "Our imperfections are what makes us colorful." "Treat yourself as you would treat a friend."
Perhaps it is because I place unreasonably high expectations on myself that I would never put on another.
“Remember, don’t give up because you had a bad day. Forgive what’s happened, and tomorrow will be a fresh start.”
About a decade ago, I heard one of the most freeing phrases. I can't remember what I was doing or who I was with, and I'm positive I will get the actual wording wrong.
But essentially, the phrase broke down to this: Humans are made to be imperfect, so stop trying to be perfect.
There are other variations of this I have wrestled with throughout the years. "Our imperfections are what makes us colorful." "Treat yourself as you would treat a friend."
Perhaps it is because I place unreasonably high expectations on myself that I would never put on another.
Or perhaps it is that I likely have undiagnosed ADHD. I struggle to complete my to-do list, wanting to finish projects with my entire being but never seeming to complete them.
Or it could be that I am often over-stimulated, eat sporadically, lack sleep, and try to be everything to everyone… and feel like I am failing.
But am I, really?
How can I possibly fail when we are MADE to be IMPERFECT?
Being overly critical doesn't motivate you to do anything more than sit alone, totally consumed with the list of less-thans.
Here's the kicker – you can get lost in the unreachable self-created yardstick. Or you can say, "Ehhh – that's not a realistic goal," and allow yourself to be human.
Or perhaps it is that I likely have undiagnosed ADHD. I struggle to complete my to-do list, wanting to finish projects with my entire being but never seeming to complete them.
Or it could be that I am often over-stimulated, eat sporadically, lack sleep, and try to be everything to everyone… and feel like I am failing.
But am I, really?
How can I possibly fail when we are MADE to be IMPERFECT?
And you know what being made to be imperfect means? It means we are going to have bad days.
We will have days where we snap at our kids and are impatient with the people we love the most. There will be days when we mean to eat salad and fish for lunch but end up polishing off a pint of ice cream while dipping a cookie in coffee.
But am I, really? How can I possibly fail when we are MADE to be IMPERFECT?
And you know what being made to be imperfect means? It means we are going to have bad days.
We will have days where we snap at our kids and are impatient with the people we love the most. There will be days when we mean to eat salad and fish for lunch but end up polishing off a pint of ice cream while dipping a cookie in coffee.
And you know what being made to be imperfect means? It means we are going to have bad days.
We will have days where we snap at our kids and are impatient with the people we love the most. There will be days when we mean to eat salad and fish for lunch but end up polishing off a pint of ice cream while dipping a cookie in coffee.
We will mean to work out and not quite get to it, and our to-do list will remain untouched. We will burn our friend's casserole and forget a date.
We will be imperfect and have bad days.
And yet – this is not a judgment on who we are or our value in the world.
Instead, when we recognize our inability to be anything other than human, we understand that we will 100% mess up.
Girl – I'm HUMAN, not a saint.
But I did find spaces to stop being critical and laugh at myself.
It's been a while since my hair wasn't naturally highlighted with grey and white, and even longer since my hands didn't look like my mother's. Yet, I am finding acceptance and strength in my changes.
Not only were we bombarded with books like "Where There's a Will, There's an A" and parenting how-to's... our kids were navigating through diet pill ads, Columbine, overly sexualized tv-drama, and, shortly after the decade ended, 9/11.
And... therapy wasn't really a big seller in those days.
We will mean to work out and not quite get to it, and our to-do list will remain untouched. We will burn our friend's casserole and forget a date.
We will be imperfect and have bad days.
And yet – this is not a judgment on who we are or our value in the world.
Instead, when we recognize our inability to be anything other than human, we understand that we will 100% mess up.
Girl – I'm HUMAN, not a saint.
But I did find spaces to stop being critical and laugh at myself.
It's been a while since my hair wasn't naturally highlighted with grey and white, and even longer since my hands didn't look like my mother's. Yet, I am finding acceptance and strength in my changes.
Instead, when we recognize our inability to be anything other than human, we understand that we will 100% mess up.
Girl – I'm HUMAN, not a saint.
But I did find spaces to stop being critical and laugh at myself.
It's been a while since my hair wasn't naturally highlighted with grey and white, and even longer since my hands didn't look like my mother's. Yet, I am finding acceptance and strength in my changes.
Because with each age-badge I collect, I learn more profound lessons -like self-acceptance and self-forgiveness.
Beating ourselves up successfully does nothing but make us miserable and less capable of giving love.
But when we let go... when we accept a bad day for a bad day and not a reflection of our capability... we learn peace. We learn the beauty of being human.
We are going to mess up. We absolutely will be imperfect. And… we will, without a doubt, have a bad day.
Because with each age-badge I collect, I learn more profound lessons -like self-acceptance and self-forgiveness.
Beating ourselves up successfully does nothing but make us miserable and less capable of giving love.
But when we let go... when we accept a bad day for a bad day and not a reflection of our capability... we learn peace. We learn the beauty of being human.
We are going to mess up. We absolutely will be imperfect. And… we will, without a doubt, have a bad day.
And it is okay. We will manage.
Because in having grace for our own shortcomings, we allow another person to reflect and say, "You know what – I am okay, too."
And that is what it is about – using one hand to hold steady and the other to help someone else up from their fall.
So, be you – authentically and fully – in all the imperfection that comes with being human. And smile through the bad days because you are beautiful.
So, here is to you - you gorgeous, imperfect human! Cheers to Positive Aging and turning your bad day around.
Because with each age-badge I collect, I learn more profound lessons -like self-acceptance and self-forgiveness.
Beating ourselves up successfully does nothing but make us miserable and less capable of giving love.
But when we let go... when we accept a bad day for a bad day and not a reflection of our capability... we learn peace. We learn the beauty of being human.
We are going to mess up. We absolutely will be imperfect. And… we will, without a doubt, have a bad day
And it is okay. We will manage.
Because in having grace for our own shortcomings, we allow another person to reflect and say, "You know what – I am okay, too."
And that is what it is about – using one hand to hold steady and the other to help someone else up from their fall.
So, be you – authentically and fully – in all the imperfection that comes with being human. And smile through the bad days because you are beautiful.
There's nothing wrong if you love material things. Shoot – who doesn't love to swipe on some makeup and go out for a stroll around town?
What matters is on the days you want to just put on some moisturizer and chill in your pj's… you are okay with that, too… without any self-criticism.
So, be you – authentically and fully – in all the imperfection that comes with being human. And smile through the bad days because you are beautiful.
So, here is to you - you gorgeous, imperfect human! Cheers to Positive Aging and turning your bad day around.
And trust that being wonderfully, imperfect you is enough. Because it is, and always has been.
So, cheers to Positive Aging and Being Gentle on You!
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